Her/she kiss

Recent discussions have lead me to ponder what I want in a female.... a potential mate. Now I can be as picky as I want to but I don't want to limit myself to a list.

Now first and foremost, I AM going to marry a christian girl. Now that is considering I AM going to get married. But I know the first thing I am looking for in a girl is that she is a christian. I want someone I can share similar beliefs with. There is no seeable way for me to get that from a woman who is, say, a Buddhist. This isn't just a morality thing. I want someone who I can praise God together with. Someone who I can take to church. Someone who I can talk to about my faith and vice-versa. Now I guess I would prefer a Baptist, but I am not going to limit myself to denominations. There are too many terrific girls out there who aren't Baptist.

Usually I would say that is all that matters to me, but I believe that there is more to "her" just being a christian. There are a number of qualities that I would LIKE for "her" to have. But this is by no means a final draft or anything like that. Here we go...

• Obviously, she HAS to be a christian. I need a Godly woman who isn't afraid to stand up for her beliefs, no matter the consequences. One who seeks God earnestly. A prayerful woman who loves God with all of her heart.
• I have to find her attractive. I believe that the girl God has for me will be attractive in my eyes. So, I guess this is really a "me" thing, not a requirement for "her".
• She has to be loving. I couldn't stand to be with a woman who isn't afraid to show me how she feels. If she loves me, I want to know it!
• I would prefer if she has the same views on alcohol as I do. I follow the zero tolerance policy. Now, I'm still studying this for myself, so this isn't final. But, since I don't drink at all, I don't want her to as well. I just hate the stuff.
• She would have to seem like she would be a great mother. I think the main point of marriage is to procreate. Not to say that people who don't have children have a failed marriage or anything. But, I want a woman who wants to have children. And she would have to be a good mother. I need my children in a christian home.
• She will have to be smart. I mean, c'mon... somebody has to take care of me when I do something stupid.
• She will have to accept my flaws. Lord knows I have plenty of them. If she doesn't accept who I am, then .......
• I want her to be strong willed and semi-independent. I don't want her to be so dependent on me that if I am gone for 3 minutes she'll have a total freak attack. I want her to do her own thing sometimes. But not all the time.
• Humbleness. My biggest pet peeve is people with great pride within themselves. People who just think they are God's gift to everyone and everything is something I can't deal with. I want a girl with a servant's heart.
• I would like her to be family oriented. I guess this could be part of the whole 'children' thing. But my dad was part of a fairly large family (my father was 1 of 8 kids). We are a close family and I don't want that to change when I get married.
• Healthy lifestyle. I want my future wife to be healthy. Staying thin and neat is important to me. Now, I can be a slob sometimes but I like to think I am somewhat neat. I need someone to keep me in check. I don't want my wife dying of something because she didn't lead a healthy lifestyle. I need somebody to keep my in check in this regard as well.
• She would have to love me. Simply put. Why would I want someone that doesn't love me?
• Have a sense of humor. I want someone that I can laugh with. Humor is truly a gift from God.
• Similar taste in music. This is by no means a "list killer" if she doesn't like the same groups that I like. I just think it would be awesome if we could both enjoy the same music. Music is a way to reach the soul.
• Maturity. I don't want someone who is just totally immature, like me at times (I'm working on that).
• I want someone who doesn't mind just being with me. We wouldn't have to go out because other people are. I want her to want to spend time with me. I don't want to be afraid to just stay at home on a weekend night just being together. Now, I'm not saying that this would happen every weekend. I don't want her to be in love with the atmosphere surrounding us.... I just want her to be in love with me.
• She'll have to respect what I do for a living. Now, I'm not totally sure what exactly that is yet, but I want her to respect me. If I were a sales rep for a baseball team, then I want her support and love.
• And finally (but not final), I want a relationship to where we can be honest with each other. I want to be able to talk to my wife about ANYTHING I desire. Now, I know that it isn't realistic to be able to talk about every single thing. I want an honest relationship, with full trust in each other and one driven by God.

Wow. I thought up more than I thought I would. I'm sure there are more but I just can't think of any more. What a good way to lead up to National Singles Awareness Day.

Until next time, vaya con Dios.